Bullying

What is bullying?

  • Unwelcome behaviour (criticism, nit-picking, fault-finding, exclusion, isolation, being shouted at, humiliated, excessive monitoring, verbal and written warnings imposed on you etc.)
  • Persistent, offensive, abusive, Intimidating or Insulting behaviour which makes the recipient/victim feel upset, threatened, humiliated or vulnerable.  This undermines their self confidence and may cause them to suffer and become stressed.

What is a bully?

A person who takes repeated hostile actions against another person and has more power than the person targeted.

3 Ways to bully

Verbal Bullying: Name calling, sexist remarks, racist remarks, verbal threats, and cruel jokes about appearance, physical ability or religion.

Relational Bullying: Being left out, gossiping, exclusion.

Physical Bullying: Is assault.

  • Spitting
  • Hitting
  • Slapping
  • Pushing
  • Damaging property or possessions
  • Kicking
  • Throwing objects
  • Wedgies

Why do bullies bully?

  • To avoid facing responsibility for their behaviour and the effect it has on others
  • To diverts attention away from their inadequacy.
  • To gets others to look up them, so they try to achieve this by acting tough
  • Many boys, who have been bullies early in life, often continue their style of behaviour as adults. Then the police deal with bullies as criminals.

What to look for in a child who may be bullied

  • Coming home with cuts and bruises
  • Torn clothes
  • Asking for stolen possessions to be replaced
  • “Losing” dinner money
  • Falling out with previously good friends
  • Being moody and bad tempered
  • Being quiet and withdrawn
  • Wanting to avoid leaving the house
  • Aggression with brothers and sisters
  • Doing less well at schoolwork
  • Insomnia
  • Anxiety

If bullying continues

  • Keep a diary of what your child says is happening or get your child to keep his/her own diary
  • Write a note to the class teacher or principal, explaining that the problem is till unresolved

Ask what action has been taken on earlier bullying complaints. Schools have a variety of sanctions that can use.
These include:

  • A warning
  • Calling the bully's parents in to school
  • Detention
  • Internal exclusion within school
  • Fixed term exclusion
  • Permanent exclusion

Advice

  • You must talk to a teacher
  • Work with the teachers to make schools safer and happier
  • If you are not satisfied with the school's response, don't give up –other sources of help are available.

Dealing with Bullies

  • Stand straight and tall if faced with a bully, look him/her in the eyes
  • Be polite but firm and tell the bully “Stop if, I don't like it, Leave me alone”
  • If at all possible don't cry or show you are upset, walk away
  • Report what happened to an adult you trust, and expect action to be taken